Do you ever have a feeling that you’re really busy, you’re doing all kinds of things that must be done, but at the end of the day you don’t feel like you’ve accomplished anything? Or, do you ever feel scattered, like you’re jumping from task to task, project to project, but never making the progress you’d like to make on anything? Isn’t that frustrating?
I’ve often wondered if it’s the food I eat, or the amount of humidity in the air, or the alignment of the stars (or what?) that affects the degree of focus, flow, and ease I achieve on certain days. And I’ve also wondered if there is a solution to those days I fall into what I call my scattered funk, and just can’t motivate.
I’m sure my familiarity with these feelings is the very reason I’m in the business I’m in: working with people to create the experiences, lifestyle, and art they want to create, but seem stymied in creating. It’s my own personal goal, too. We all know moments of feeling stymied; and we all want solutions.
That’s why this book by Gary Keller really grabbed me by the lapels — The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results.
What’s the one thing you most want to do, achieve, accomplish, experience, or offer to the world? Can you answer that question right now? If not, you might be allowing your days to organize around a to-do list instead of consciously constructing your days according to a clear intention (even a mission). Keller’s book outlines a road map for identifying your “ONE thing,” and for constructing the structures of your life to support that ONE thing.
Not that we don’t all have tons of things to do in the course of each and every day. Of course. Our lives are complicated and filled with responsibilities and varieties of interests and passions. But that very rich display of options can be the very thing that keeps us from addressing the goal or the activity (or the relationship) that is most important.
I had a dream last night about being in a house that was filled with piles of dirty clothes that I felt compelled to launder. The sense of urgency in this dream was palpable. It was imperative to get this laundry done; life and death hinged on it! And as I was trying to deal with the overwhelming feeling of this task, I also had great concern about my adorable dog, Dash. She was outside and wandering around a strange camp-like site (it’s a dream!) trying to find me. She was undoubtedly frightened. I knew I needed to get out there and find her: I was going to lose her if I didn’t. But the tug toward that laundry was huge. I woke deeply disturbed that I could even for a second think of doing laundry before I would go outside to find the most precious part of my life. Calling Dr. Freud!
You don’t need a degree in psychiatry to figure this one out. Before I got out of bed, I knew this dream was asking me to consider the ways I’m letting small, easy, and menial tasks get in the way of the more challenging, but more creative, and ultimately more meaningful actions that I want to shape my life. This dream was screaming at me: How are you avoiding the ONE thing, Lezlie?
If you’re avoiding your ONE thing, I invite you to join me in a book discussion group focusing on Gary Keller’s The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results. Each session, we’ll discuss one of the three sections of the book.
September 16: The Lies That Mislead and Derail Us
October 21 : The Simple Path To Productivity
November 18: Unlocking the Possibilities Within You
We’ll talk about his ideas, experiment with his exercises, identify our ONE thing, and motivate one another to take small steps in restructuring our days and our thinking in ways that will support that ONE thing.
I would so love to have you join us in this book discussion. Let’s stop doing laundry and get down to the most important thing. Are you ready? You can find registration information here.