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The Last List of the Year!

images-1In February and March, LifeArt Studio will be offering a 5-session course called “Living the Beautiful Questions.” It will introduce core concepts that run through all the wisdom traditions, and offer ways to apply these concepts and bring ease, joy, and benefit into your life.

For instance, here’s a question we’ll be exploring: What is the conversation you need to stop having (either with yourself, or with someone else)?

How often do we wrangle with a problem—analyzing it, probing it, poking and provoking it, dissecting it, and suffering under the lack of clarity we hold around a repetitive conversation? And yet, in spite of our frustration about this kind of repetitive behavior, we can’t seem to break the pattern. We just keep talking!

In this course, we’ll discuss age-old strategies for disarming such patterns, and thus pave the way for something new to rise up in your life.

My friend Scott Bowman recently shared a blog post by Morgan Robson called “13 Things You Should Give Up If You Want to Be Successful.”  I’ll have to admit, as much as I love a good list, I’m growing weary of yet another list telling me what I have to do to be successful! But this one is actually pretty darned good. It might be the answer to another good question we could pursue in this course: What do you need to let go of in order to live the life you keep saying you want to live?

Check it out below, or at this link, and see if this list and these questions resonate with you. If they do, you might want to think about joining us in February as we follow “the beautiful questions,” the pathway to a life of flourishing!

Happy New Year to you all! May we all choose love over fear in 2017.

13 Things You Should Give Up If You Want To Be Successful

”Somebody once told me the definition of hell:

“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.”Anonymous

Sometimes, to become successful and get closer to the person we can become, we don’t need to add more things — we need to give up on some of them.

There are certain things that are universal, which will make you successful if you give up on them, even though each one of us could have a different definition of success.

You can give up on some of them today, while it might take a bit longer to give up on others.

  1. Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”Jim Rohn

If you want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First you have to take care of your health, and there are only two things you need to keep in mind:

  1. Healthy Diet
    2. Physical Activity

Small steps, but you will thank yourself one day.

  1. Give Up The Short-term Mindset

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”Mae West

Successful people set long-term goals, and they know that these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day.

These healthy habits shouldn’t be something you do; they should be something you embody.

There is a difference between: “Working out to get a summer body” and “Working out because that’s who you are.”

  1. Give Up On Playing Small

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

If you never try and take great opportunities, or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never unleash your true potential.

And the world will never benefit from what you could have achieved.

So voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.

  1. Give Up Your Excuses

“It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.”
Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.

Realizing that you are responsible for what happens next in your life is both frightening and exciting.

And when you do, that becomes the only way you can become successful, because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally.

Own your life; no one else will.

  1. Give Up The Fixed Mindset

“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” Robert Greene, Mastery

People with a fixed mindset their intelligence or talents are simply fixed traits, and that talent alone creates success — without effort. They’re wrong.

Successful people know this. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives.

Remember, who you are today, it’s not who you have to be tomorrow.

  1. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”

“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better”Émile Coué

Overnight success is a myth.

Successful people know that making small continual improvement every day will be compounded over time, and give them desired results.

That is why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1% every day.

  1. Give Up Your Perfectionism

“Shipping beats perfection.”Kahn Academy’s Development Mantra

Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much we try.

Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents us from taking an action and putting our creation out there in the world. But a lot of opportunities will be lost if we wait for the things to be right.

So “ship,” and then improve (that 1%).

  1. Give Up Multi-tasking

“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” Winston S. Churchill

Successful people know this. That’s why they choose one thing and then beat it into submission. No matter what it is — a business idea, a conversation, or a workout.

Being fully present and committed to one task, is indispensable.

  1. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything

“Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us.”Epictetus, Stoic philosopher

Differentiating these two is important.

Detach from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to control is your attitude towards something.

Remember, nobody can be frustrated while saying “Bubbles” in an angry voice.

  1. Give Up On Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals

“He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.”James Allen

Successful people know that in order to accomplish their goals, they will have to say NO to certain tasks, activities, and demands from their friends, family, and colleagues.

In the short-term, you might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when your goals come to fruition, it will all be worth it.

  1. Give Up The Toxic People

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Jim Rohn

People we spend the most time with, add up to who we become.

There are people who are less accomplished in their personal and professional life, and there are people who are more accomplished than us. If you spend time with those who are behind you, your average will go down, and with it, your success.

But if you spend time with people who are more accomplished than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will become more successful.

Take a look at around you, and see if you need to make any changes.

  1. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked

“The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.”Oliver Emberton

Think of yourself as a market niche.

There will be a lot of people who like that niche, and there will be individuals who don’t. And no matter what you do, you won’t be able to make the entire market like you.

This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to justify yourself.

The only thing you can do is remain authentic, improve and provide value every day, and know that the growing number of “haters” means that you are doing important things.

  1. Give Up Your Dependency on Social Media & Television

“The trouble is, you think you have time”Jack Kornfield

Impulsive web browsing and television watching are diseases of today’s society.
These two should never be an escape from your life or your goals.

Unless your goals depend on either, you should minimize (or even eliminate) your dependency on them, and direct that time towards things that can enrich your life.

See Robson’s full post here: https://medium.com/personal-growth/13-things-you-need-to-give-up-if-you-want-to-be-successful-44b5b9b06a26#.dtexpxx8h

It’s Just a Matter of Priorities

images-1Hello my courageous creatives!

I send happiness to each of you as we enter the season of celebrate what we love most in life and in spirit! I hope you have been enjoying the joys and frivolities of the season; and I also hope you have been honoring, in your own unique fashion, this time by reflecting on the mysteries that spin us round and round.

I’m writing this on Friday night. Stacks of papers, books, folders, old journals litter my entire upstairs. I’m surrounded by a huge mess. And to make it worse, instead of being in a noisy, crowded restaurant taking photos of my food—which is scrumptiously delicious—and my friends—who are laughing uproariously because they are so beautiful and their lives are so fabulous—I’m at home cleaning out file cabinets.  Is that pitiful?

I have just filled my 96 gallon behemoth of a recycling bin with file folders and notebooks that date back to the early eighties. This stuff has been sitting in two four-drawer file cabinets that I have moved into 5 different homes, and have lodged into a variety of places of honor and dishonor in those various homes. For some deeply disturbing reason, I have been stubbornly unable to throw away student writing and file-folders filled with what I thought was very clever curriculum.

And why am I doing it tonight—finally? I have no idea, but I’m sure there’s some profound neurotic issue that I’m trying to avoid. When things get edgy, I get organized. (We won’t go there, OK?)

Anyway, as I’ve been reading through the detritus of the last forty years of my professional life, and reluctantly discarding all evidence of those years, I’ve also been listening to TED Talks. This month, TED is offering an end-of-the-year special called “31 days of ideas,” a compendium of some of the most popular talks over the last few years years. Earlier tonight, I listened to Elizabeth Gilbert’s talk on “your elusive genius.” If you’ve been in a class I’ve mine in the last five years, you’ve heard this one, one of my all-time favorite TED talks. And a little earlier in the day I loved hearing again Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s brilliant talk on “the danger of a single story.”

This series of outstanding talks has been a tremendous antidote to the disturbing discourse we’ve all endured for the last several months. If you want to clean your palate, please subscribe  to receive a fifteen minutes of high inspiration in your email every day this month.

So as painful as this purging has been, doing it against the backdrop of these inspiring talks has been quite rewarding.

It’s clear I’m in high-gear organizing mode tonight, feeling lighter and happier with each trip to the recycle bin, and setting the stage for renewal in 2017. (Marie Kondo would be so proud of me.)

And then, as if right on cue, around 9:00 p.m., I was ready to listen to today’s talk, and it couldn’t have been more perfect: “How to gain control of your free time.” I was in heaven. As you all know, I’m kind of a fanatic about trying to schedule life and get shit done.

vgrahmpsfaeqw0iaylfzod2xc_crs_ladlptouqz1zp2dawgcykwbamxpdq9x0tzomtts90But I’m also a fanatic about getting clear about what I’m all about, which for me is ultimately what time management is all about. And that, of course, led me to thoughts of our accountability groups—three of them getting ready to begin in early January. And you’ll see why if you listen to Laura Vanderkam’s talk on finding time to do what matters most. Here’s the link.

Go listen right now! It will really give you a new perspective through which to examine you’re your goals for 2017.

Let me give you a couple of things to watch for in Vanderkam’s talk. First of all, note how she talks about “priorities” instead of “intentions. “ Time management, she says, is actually about getting clear about what your priorities are. Once that is established, it’s pretty easy to say yes to only those actions which support your priorities. We’ll begin our January accountability session with this idea, so think about it.

Then she offers an intriguing challenge. She talks about December being the time of performance reviews, and she suggests that, as a way of projecting future success, we write a performance review for what we want to have accomplished by December 2017. A good idea, I think. But I want to add an additional twist. Between now and our January session, why don’t you see if you can write a performance review of yourself for 2016. She suggests that we think about three primary areas—work, relationships, and self. Which arenas were you most interested in performing better in. How would you assess yourself in those areas? What were the good strategies you applied to your endeavors and what were the obstacles you allowed to get in the way?

After you’ve examined 2016, then, go ahead and do your 2017 review. What would you want it to look like?

I hope Laura Vanderkam’s talk is inspiring to you, too. I’m committed to the idea that we really can do what matters most to us. But sometimes, we need help, support, and encouragement to clearly determine what matters most to us. That’s exactly what we’ll do for each other as we begin our work in earnest come January 1.

In the meantime, take time for yourself. Rest. Enjoy your friends and family.   Do what you really love to do. And spend as much time as possible in a state of gratitude.

If you’ve signed up for one of our groups, I can hardly wait to start our work together in January. And if you haven’t signed up for one, think about joining us.  Check out our offerings here. We’d love to support you in creating an outstanding performance review for 2017.

And for now, may the light of the sun and the glow of the moon fill your heart until we meet again.

 

 

Accountability Group for Artful Projects

images-1When you collaborate with others, you accelerate your growth and your learning.

November will be a busy month here at LifeArt Studio. We’re concluding the Fall Session of groups and private coaching, and we’re also preparing minds and hearts to go into retreat. In December we close our studio, allowing time to reflect on the year we’ve just experienced and plan for the year ahead.

It’s a rich time of hibernation, rejuvenation, inspiration, and creation.

And then, in January we charge out of the gate with more offerings to help you shape a life of flourishing!   In our 2017 Winter Session, we’ll be running three accountability groups, two group coaching experiences on Changing Habits Through Beautiful Questions, and taking a group of Orlando lovelies to Nicaragua to learn all about Aging Gracefully!

As you consider the kinds of experiences, habits, and attitudes you would like to add or remove from your life in 2017, I hope you’ll consider LifeArt Studio as a place to get inspiration and loving support in doing just that.

Two Spaces Left for Accountability Group

Two accountability groups are filled, but we have two spaces left in a third accountability group that is forming now.
• Do you have a project that needs your attention?
• Do you want to do something you’ve never done before?
• Do you want to meet monthly with people who remind you that what you are doing matters
and you must do it?

Then please join a LifeArt Studio accountability group! It’s fun, it’s scary, and it’s a powerful way to “get shit done.” Truly!

We explore issues, problems, challenges, and achievements having to do with the development or implementation of a project in any arena (home, relationship, art, job).  Such a group offers support and accountability in establishing clear goals and taking bold action steps toward those goals.  It’s feet to the fire time!

  • Introductory Session:  Saturday, Nov. 12, 9:30-11:45
  • Five two-hour+ sessions: January, February, March, April, May
  • Meeting time:  to be determined at Nov. 12 session
  • Fee:  $180.

Contact me here to reserve your space. I would love to work with you!